Friday, October 16, 2009

A True Hero...

Unfortunately, I was not able to attend the funeral of our hero, Sgt. Mickey Hutchens . However, I am watching it on tv. Police officers, not only from the Winston-Salem Police Department but departments from all over North Carolina, Virginia, South Carolina and New York attended to pay their respects to Sgt. Mickey Hutchens and his family. It is so touching to see the police officers from up and down the east coast coming together to comfort us and mourn a fallen brother.
Sgt. Hutchens was escorted to Wait Chapel by a horse and buggy. This symbolized Mickey's last tour of duty before being laid to rest. The American Flag was neatly placed on his casket to symbolize Mickey's service to the City of Winston-Salem and the United States.
As I watch the family of Mickey my heart breaks for them. One of his daughters looks completely lost...she has a blank stare on her face, the man beside her is holding her hand and she seems to be lightly holding his. His other daughter has buried her head into the man beside her several times, then turns to look back up at the speakers. His wife looks as if her heart is absolutely broken. You can see the love she has for Mickey just from the look on her face. The speakers spoke with admiration, kindness and respect for Mickey.
As the pallbearers escort Sgt. Hutchens' body to the white hearse all of the police officers salute, showing their respect to the fallen hero. As the police officers walk to their cars, their heads are lowered and all are seemingly somber. Very few are speaking and everyone is walking slowly.
Slowly, the officers are entering their police vehicles. Each vehicle has its blue lights flashing, it is a beautiful sight. This is such an honorable way to say goodbye and celebrate Mickey's life. I can't stop crying...this is so sad, but at the same time it shows everyone what a wonderful police officer, husband, father and man that Sgt. Hutchens was. As it was said during the funeral, Mickey was a wonderful man and anyone that knew him...liked him.
Rest in Peace Sgt. Mickey Hutchins. You will always be in our will never be forgotten...See you again one day.

Wednesday, October 14, 2009


It is very hard for others to imagine the pain and worry that Police Wives and families of police officers go through when there is a death within our police family. Even though we don't work at the police department we feel it...Today my husband and I went to the police department to lay flowers on Sgt. Mickey Hutchens patrol car. The feeling of sadness was overwhelming. As I laid my hand on Mickey's car, I begin to pray for Mickey, his family and my police family. The tears started flowing from my eyes, the feeling was almost unbearable. I talked to Mickey and told him what a hero he is. I told him, "You made the ultimate sacrifice, thank you. You are in a better place now. Away from this cruel world." I asked him, "Will you please be our angel and watch over these officers?" I know he heard me, I felt so warm inside...I know he answered, "Of course".
Mickey probably wouldn't have wanted us to make such a big deal out of him. He was not the type that enjoyed attention at work. But I am sure he is touched by how we are all coming together as one department, comforting one another and remembering him.
I think I am safe to say that the emotions we feel as police wives are the same as the officer's. That being said, our husbands will never understand how we feel, what we are thinking, the sadness we are experiencing. We feel for the officer's family and for our police family. But most of all, we are scared to death. The "what ifs" start taking over our minds. What if this was my husband? What if he was there instead of the other officer/officers? When he walks out the door tonight will that be the last time I will ever see him alive? Could our family go on without him? How would we go on? Of course, we could never feel the same way that the slain officer's family feels. No one could, unless they have experienced it themselves. The only thing we can do is pray and be a shoulder to lean on.
This is particularly hard on our husbands because police officers are used to being in control and fixing every situation they run into. However, this situation can not be controlled or fixed by them. They have to let go...and put it in God's hands.
I ask you to please pray that God will give us strength. That our husbands will go on, and continue to "do the job" but never forget Mickey and what he did. Please pray that our community will realize and respect what our husbands do for them; how they put their lives on the line everyday...for THEIR lives, not matter if they are a good person or a thug, they save their lives just the same. Pray that God will give police wives the strength to stand behind our husbands...patiently. Cry for them when they are crying, feel the pain that they feel, be scared for them when they are scared and be brave when they are brave. Please pray that God will comfort us when we are scared while our husbands are working. Most of all, please pray for all of us in general at this difficult time. We will all need it.

"Greater love hath no man than this, that he lay down his life for his friends" John 15:13

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Sgt. Mickey Hutchens of The WSPD...

With a heavy heart I sadly report that on October 12, 2009 at approximately 6:57 pm, Sgt. Mickey Hutchens of the Winston-Salem Police Department passed away.
Sgt. Hutchens was shot in the face by a gunman that was on his way to kill his exwife.
Sgt. Hutchens was a wonderful man, a good sergeant and a great friend. He was very soft spoken, which is something I really liked about him. He was so easy going and seemed to always be calm and collected. He was married and had two adult daughters. Unfortunately I don't know their names. I only knew Mickey. Mickey is a true hero...he took that deadly bullet to save the life of a woman he did not know... just so she could live another day.
The hearts of my brothers/sisters in blue are breaking. But, they take comfort and pride in knowing that Mickey honored his oath to protect and serve.
We all understand the risk...the wives, husbands, children...but we pray every night that our loved ones will come home to us in the morning. It is really hard on all of us when a sudden, tragic death takes place. However, when you are part of a police family it is 1,000 times worse. I know this isn't the best post I have written and I apologize for that, but at this time it is very hard to concentrate...
Thank your local Police Officers today.
If you would like to donate to the family of Sgt. Mickey Hutchens or Officer Daniel Clark please click on the following link
Sgt Mickey Hutchens & Officer Daniel Clark Relief Fund

"Blessed are the Peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God" Matthew 5:9

We love you Mickey. You will never be forgotten. Thank you for making the ultimate sacrifice.

Thursday, October 8, 2009

2 Officers Shot...WE NEED PRAYERS....

On October 7, 2009 around 1045. Two Winston-Salem Police Officers were shot.
Sgt. Mickey Hutchens and Officer Daniel Clark. Sgt. Hutchens was shot in the face and Officer Clark was shot in the neck and abdomen.
Officer Clark's shot to the neck was a grazing wound. Luckily, the bullet proof, kevlar vest was there to catch the bullet to the saved his life. He is doing well and has been moved to an observation floor. Hopefully he will go home soon. Sgt. Hutchens is in critical and grave condition. His injuries are life treating. His doctors are unable to say whether he will live...or die.
All of WSPD and their families are praying extremely hard for both of these officers. Our prayers are being heard, because 3 days later Officer Daniel Clark is up and talking to the investigating agency, SBI. Sgt. Hutchens is still hanging in there!
Sgt. Mickey Hutchens has been with the WSPD for 27 years. He has 15 months until retirement. He is very soft spoken and one of the nicest men you will ever meet. I don't think I have ever seen him mad. Officer Daniel Clark has worked with the PD for 5 years. He graduated BLET (Basic Law Enforcement Training) with my husband. He is a very nice man as well. I just found out he and his wife are expecting their first child. Mrs. Clark is 12 weeks pregnant.
I am so proud of the way these two officers carried out their duties and honored the oath that they took to PROTECT AND SERVE! They are true heroes.
My heart is broken...To see friends...officers that are protecting the public, in this condition. Its so hard to see your police family crying, worried, pleading with God. Please God, just let them get through this.
We have already been through a death of an officer only 2 years and 8 months ago. Sgt. Howard Plouff was killed when responding to a fight at a club in Winston-Salem...
This is not fair. We are hurting so bad. We need prayers and God's great mercy. I feel for their families, their friends and our police family. We all know this is the chance they take when they are in this line of work. But we always pray that it doesn't happen.
I feel so guilty right now...I'm relieved that this wasn't my husband or father...But, I also feel so bad because I am relieved...I mostly feel bad because it happened all together...I don't know if that even makes sense...My emotions are running high right now as well as my police family's. I'm always scared when my husband and dad go to work but now that this has happened AGAIN I am even more terrified!
Our city is getting worse. It seems as if there are more bad citizens than good citizens. The majority of this city doesn't look at Police as the "good guys". They believe that we are out to get them...We're the bad ones. Its ridiculous...
"Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God. Matthew 5:9
THANK YOU SGT. HUTCHENS AND OFFICER CLARK. You are my heroes and I love you!
Please pray for us!

Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Drug using parents...

As you can tell from my other posts I am a major advocate of children. I want to do anything and everything to protect children in the United States. However, my power is very limited. I create these posts in an effort to educate parents and the public in general as to what is going on in our country. I hope the negligent parents that I write about in my posts will read these and take some of my advice.

On with the post...Anyone using drugs is not okay, but it is most definitely not okay to use drugs when you are a parent. Using drugs as a parent is teaching your children to break the law, not to deal with their problems, that authority figures don't exist, and to disrespect themselves as well as this country and those that enforce and make the laws. Using drugs around your child is child abuse. I am sick of hearing, "I only use when the kids are asleep". I guess that theory helps them sleep at night... Parents are allowing themselves to be high, hallucinogenic, lethargic, irresponsible (the list goes on and on) around their children. Whether or not they are sleeping shouldn't even be a factor. When they are high they only think about themselves, how they feel and what they want in the moment. They aren't thinking about their children and their needs.
Doing drugs as a parent is negligent and irresponsible. A drug user's behavior is unpredictable, yes even MARIJUANA users! Marijuana IS a drug. Users are often inconsistent with disciplining their children. Their mood swings significantly effect their children they feel as if its their fault that their parents have mood swings and are often unhappy when they (the kids) are awake and only happy when they are in bed. (Remember, the parents only use when the kids are in bed...)

To the parents that use drugs: Children of parents that abuse drugs and alcohol are 29 times more likely to have been the subject of proven physical abuse and 12 times more likely to end up in foster care than the average child of non user parents. Children that have parents that are drug users have a very high chance of being an addicted drug user themselves. Do you really want your child to grow up and be just like you? Children become what they have learned. What is more important to you, your children or drugs?

Friday, May 29, 2009

Why Is This an Issue?...

In the world of Politics one of the most important and debated platforms is abortion. In 1973 the United States Supreme Court ruled that women have the right to terminate a pregnancy. A Supreme Court ruling is very unlikely to be overturned not impossible just unlikely. The fact that this is still an issue in Politics is amazing to me. I'm not stating whether I am in favor or not in favor of abortion, just simply stating that people are beating a dead horse. Back to my original question, Why is abortion even an issue in politics? Is it because the public wants insight as to where the candidates stand as far as ethics and morals are concerned? Seriously?....They ARE politicians do they even have morals? Back to abortion. I know that a lot of citizens protest abortion and would like to see it outlawed, I hate to be the barer of bad news but that's just not going to happen. And another thing! I don't understand all of the bashing, protesting and judging of the women that do decide to have an abortion. What would you do if you were in the same situation as that pregnant woman? I am not talking about the pregnant women that have 2,3 and 4 abortions because they don't know how to use protection! I mean the ones that are truly in a dellima. If you had asked me 4 years ago if I was in favor of abortion I would have stated very quickly that I was not. However, in the last 4 years I have learned not to judge because you never know what type of situation you may be in. No one can say with certainty that they would do or not do something if they haven't already had the experience. Stop judging.

Thursday, May 28, 2009

Human Trafficking...

I am embarrassed to say that I didn't know that Human Trafficking went on in the United States until about 2 years ago. I knew that this was a heinous crime existed in other countries but this is the UNITED STATES! For those of you who don't know how the process works allow me to elaborate. Americans (and other nationalities) use coercive tactics to lure women into trafficking. Of course at the time the women don't know that they are going to become a sex slave. Usually Traffickers will seek out women (and their children) that want access and citizenship to the United States from other countries. The Traffickers convince them that they want to help them and once they are smuggled into the U.S. that they will be free to do as they wish. However, once Traffickers have their victims trust and they are in their control they capture them, get them addicted to drugs and force them into prostitution. Not only do they do this to women but men and children as well, from very young ages. The Traffickers present the women and children to the "customers" and they pick which one they want. Sometimes the victims are sold completely (not just prostituted out) to one person who pays thousands/millions of dollars for the victims. The Traffickers have or used to have (I don't know if they have them anymore) websites set up like ebay and the customers would bid on the victims. A lot of these "customers" are AMERICANS! How can this be? In my country in the year 2009 women and children are being sold into sex slavery! On a website that will remain anonymous (the website in a non government organization) I read, "despite the lifetime channel mini series, Trafficking, rest assured that their are no instances of American girls or boys getting kidnapped for the purpose of commercial sex trade anywhere in the world". Seriously?... the writers of that website believe that? Where are they getting their information from? If that were true, (which there is no way that it is) how can they completely omit the fact that Americans are participating in this sick form of "commercial trade"?! What about the non American women and children that are being sold in the U.S.? To me it is very selfish and misleading that this website would make such a bold statement and present it as fact. If this organization is going to fight against human trafficking they need the REAL facts.

The following statistics are courtesy of the U.S. department of Justice 600,000 - 800,000 men, women and children are trafficked across international borders each year. 70% of which are women and 50% are children! Each year 14,500 - 17,500 are trafficked into the U.S. alone! WITH AN ESTIMATED 200,000 AMERICAN CHILDREN AT RISK FOR HUMAN TRAFFICKING INTO THE SEX INDUSTRY.

For more information on what the Federal Government is doing to prevent human trafficking please visit . Help Stop Human Trafficking, please report any suspected act of human trafficking to The Trafficking in Persons and Worker Exploitation Task Force Complaint Line at 1-888-428-7581.

To assist in the fight against human trafficking please visit there you will find resources and fundraiser ideas.

This is not a subject to be taken lightly. Educate yourself as to what is going on in your country...